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Giving the Milk for Free

7/13/2010

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I am SOOOO sick of women not making men EARN their affections, bodies, etc. and then complaining when the man doesn’t commit or put in as much effort. Let’s be logical here. Why the heck would a man commit and/or put in more effort if he doesn’t have to, to obtain what you’re offering? Would you go to work every day if you could make the same money (or more for that matter) just breathing? No.
Why pick/hand squeeze 100 oranges for juice when you can buy a ready-to-go gallon at the store? Thus, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Don’t roll your eyes. It’s a cliché and a saying for a reason. Most humans are not going to put in any more than what THEY DEEM necessary to attain a certain thing. So, if something is free, you can bet your life they aren’t going to work for it. Don’t expect someone to work for your free goods. “Oh, I’m sorry Oprah, I can’t take a weekly million dollar stipend from you for nothing; I need to work for it.” GET OUTTA HERE! GET REAL GIRL! A man who’s getting your FREE goods is not going to beg you to work to earn them.

Now when I speak with other women about why they give away something unearned, they often tell me it’s because they are expecting to get something they want (which is usually a commitment or an exclusive relationship) in exchange. Agreeing to an exchange is like signing a contract-you’ll be obligated/or expected to give or do a certain thing in order to receive. For someone who doesn’t want to work or wants something for free, an exchange agreement is not going to be of interest. If you want water, don’t go to the desert. If you’re looking for an exclusive or committed relationship, seek others who want the same thing. Seek like-minded individuals; otherwise, you simply won’t get what you want. Men make it abundantly clear, either through their words or actions, what their plans or intentions with you are. It’s YOUR responsibility to heed to their message. Don’t try to MAKE something work that’s not supposed to. Yes, there are some men that purposely manipulate or “play” women, but most of them make it clear what page they’re on. Men don’t hide much in that sense. So pay attention, believe people when they show you who they are and LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS. Women have AMAZING instincts, and we listen to them less than half of the time. So, what’s the moral to this story? Stop giving away things unearned, stop seeking commitments from people who are less than interested in making one, and listen to your instincts. The end.
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Erica Sims link
7/14/2010 02:33:27 am

this is too real of a concept for some people...i'm including in this number. fortunately, there's only so many times i'm willing to bang my head up against a brick wall (i.e. a man who, as it has turned out, is no longer worth my time). thanks for the reminder, j.

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catana jones
7/14/2010 04:17:48 am

Amen. Easier said than done.Your opinion is very logical and u would think realistic but apparently during the actual situations it does not happen that way.I have been a victim of this and I learned to actual believe what I a guy tells me even if he says it in a jokingly or playful way.Most guys say that I take everything 2 serious but I can't ever tell when they are serious and when they aren't. Anyways guys I always go back on guys have waaay more worthy options 2 choose and females have hardly none.

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Crystal W.
8/3/2010 07:29:57 am

This is making me think of the stats on people who cohabitate before getting married. Women typically cohabitate because they think they need to try it out and the guy will marry them...eventually. However, half the people who cohabitate never end up getting married (if they insist on cohabitating instead of marriage, they're probably already second guessing themselves). For guys, cohabiting is all perks. How many guys would pass up the chance for a free housekeeper and free sex whenever they wanted it? and best of all, he can leave whenever he wants without all those messy legal obligations. So you can see the appeal. For women, on the other hand, it is mostly an emotional bond. This makes it a whole lot worse when they discover the guy they were cohabitating with never really wanted to get married. Furthermore, because most people who try cohabitation are children of divorce, it is important for them to know that cohabitating before marriage actually INCREASES the chance that the marriage will fail. Only 25% of those who cohabitate before marriage actually stay together versus the 50% national average. All this to say, people should think about how they want their life to turn out. If you want a good guy, you can't let just anyone in.

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James
11/23/2010 08:01:10 am

What about in the heat of the moment. Most women give up there goods to men in the heat of the moment. It could have been months for a women but if the right man is at the right time saying the right things many women(not all women) but a lot of women give in. That's all I have to say.

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